Coming to terms
Even though this site is to give people a chance to help people and prevent suicide, none of us can deny that it has happened. Many of us know someone or know of people who have committed suicide, or died of other natural causes. The most difficult part of this is coming to terms with this death.
Everyone knows the dream of being able to spend years together with the person you are about. This separation isn't fair, it never is, but its not just a place to be stuck, a place to cry and forever dig a deeper hole for ourselves. Even though the night seems cold, day will always come around. Everyone will have a different way of dealing with these deaths, but no matter what that is, it is crucial to remember. You have to remember that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and remember the warmth that you felt when the person was alive. Even with death, the person would not have wanted you to suffer.
Even though it may seem insensitive and even cruel to bluntly say this, it is true. Putting on what Schillace calls "a summer coat on death" is accurate in the sense that that is the only way to come to terms. I have personal experiences with this myself; my grandmother, who had raised me as a child, was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Because she lived all the way in China, there was no way I could go back and visit her as often as i wanted. Even now, looking back, i wished I had spent more time with her than the one time I did see her before she passed. Thinking about it still hurts; there is no real way for anyone to come to terms completely. But I don’t just remember these points. I also remember who she was, how she raised me, and all the love she gave me. I remember the sunny days back when I was a child, and it softens the hurt. This feeling may never completely go away; it is like putting a bandage over it, it just needs to heal.